5 Signs You May Need Grief Support
5 Signs It’s Time To Seek The Gift Of Grief SupportThose of us who work in the realm of death, dying, and grief support are very aware that grief is not something that needs to be fixed. Nor is it something that can be shoved away, repressed, or “gotten through” via 21st-century busy-ness. We understand that grief is a process; it is a journey and while you may always carry grief with you, grief support can 100% allow you to be seen, heard, and witnessed as you transform overpowering or debilitating emotions into healthful expressions “of the love you carry for what you once held close.” Here are 5 signs that it’s time to seek the gift of grief support for yourself, or to gently suggest/offer grief support resources for someone you know who is grieving.
You think about grief support, counseling, etc.If you find yourself in the midst of grief and have thoughts, “maybe I should get some grief counseling or support…,” odds are you are in need. Those are great signs that you are absolutely right! One thing you’ll learn to trust during your grief support journey is that you are wise. Your body knows exactly what you need and it communicates with you through feelings, emotions, and – yep, you guessed it – thoughts. Trusting these messages is part of your learning, and will help you to get the help and support you need – when you need it.
You’re not functioning in your daily lifeGrief can become all-encompassing without the right support and the passage of time, not necessarily in that order. When that happens, a deep depression settles in. This deep pressing down of emotional weight can impact every aspect of your life. Signs your grief is more than you can bear on your own include:
- Suicidal thoughts
- Loss of appetite or comfort eating
- Insomnia or sleep disruptions
- The inability to get out of bed
- Skipping daily hygiene routines
- Consistently avoiding social situations, work, friends, etc.
- Ceasing to participate in activities and hobbies you love
- Unconsolable sadness
- Uncontrollable crying
- Rage or unmanageable anger
- The inability to stop playing a particular memory, conversation, etc. with your loved one over and over again in your mind
- Obsessive compulsive behaviors
You suffer from “bereavement guilt”Bereavement guilt can come in many forms, but the most common are:
- It’s my fault s/he’s dead. If only I would have…
- Our unresolved issues will never go away and it’s all my fault…
- Getting caught in an endless loop of regret(s) about your relationship (or lack thereof) with the deceased